This morning on the radio the topic being discussed was a newish trend with weddings called "No ring, no bring" or something like that. Basically, if you aren't engaged or married to your significant other (therefore, there would be no ring), I'm not paying for a 'plus one' to come to my wedding. As with everything, there are strong opinions on both sides of this fence.
Since my budget wedding post is by FAR the most popular post I've ever written, I figure I would give my opinion on this wedding topic also. As I say in that post, when it came to my wedding, I did not stray from my usual cheap-ness. I made it pretty (or so I thought so at least) and fun, but I reeled in the costs where I could. And one way I did that was by limiting the guest list. Weeee-oooo weeee-oooo! The wedding etiquette police are sure to come after me now.
Basically, I didn't allow plus ones just for the sake of having a plus one. I didn't exactly use the no ring, no bring rule (which didn't exist 4 years ago as far as I knew), but I did consider the source when it came to whether or not one of my guests got to bring a date. Obviously, married couples got to bring their spouse. And engaged couples too. And then when it came to my single friends, those that were in serious relationships got to bring their significant other as well. But my single friends? I didn't give them the option of bringing a date, AS LONG AS there were plenty of other friends at the wedding that they knew. So basically, it was a case by case basis.
For example, several of our friends at the time were single with no girlfriend/boyfriend at all. They were also all friends themselves so I had no qualms about putting all of them at a table together and knowing they'd still have a good time. But, I had one friend that didn't really know many other wedding guests, and she was single at the time. I gave her a +1 because I didn't want her to sit by herself all night.
|Lots of single friends in this picture. They look pretty happy even without a +1, no?|
The big question about this topic is this: how do you let all of your wedding guests know about this on the actual invitation? Easy. Fill in the RSVP card for them. Where my RSVP card said "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor" that ____ was already filled in. I know some people still think that's rude, but I am okay with that. You have to pick your battles when it comes to reeling in the wedding budget. I picked this one.
|Not my RSVP cards. But the basic idea.|
So what's your opinion on this? Do you think it's rude? Did you do the same? Are any of my wedding guests still holding a grudge with me over it? Please, chime in! Let's discuss!